Normally I don't write this blog with just my own thoughts. Normally I like to share and promote the wonderful things that our members do, but looking through my own Facebook Wall something occurred to me and so I thought I would write it here to see if it was just me or not! :)
We all know that the whole "Facebook thing" is more than slightly "odd". Yes it's great that we can now get in contact with everyone we've ever said "hi" to or who we knew back when we were 3 or went to playgroup with. But is it actually helpful? I know for me personally I had all these requests to be "friends" with people who I went to school with. YAY I looked really "popular" having lots of "friends" and then one night when the latest one had posted about their fantastic life jet setting all over the world at the drop of the hat, going our socialising, never having to worry about money etc I had the sudden realisation that actually it wasn't making me happy finding out all these things. In fact it was making me feel sad that my life has turned out so differently from how it was all meant to be. Don't get me wrong I love my husband and I love our children and yes in the grand scheme of things I'm happy. So why was it bothering me? Maybe because these people had never been friends of mine, they had only been mere acquaintances if that tbh at school or people who I just didn't get on with at all. So why had I added them? Someone once said that if something or someone in your life isn't a positive influence or have a positive effect on you then cut them out of your life. So that's what I did and am far more content surrounding myself with people who really do have a similar outlook to life that I have. No I may not have thousands of friends, but I do have those who count and who don't judge me and those who I want to have.
Facebook is full of groups. This we know.I've come across so many who are either really negative, those who are promoting homophobia, racism, sexism or other forms of hate crime or those which seem to me to just be overly jolly about everything. I do "get" the whole positivity thing, but there are times for everyone when life just isn't like that and some of them are just (imho) totally pointless.
At the moment lots of my friends seem to be following those who are sharing quotes. Do positive quotes help you to get past the way that you are feeling?
Which got me thinking about mantras. Do mantras help? One of our DWD Team has the mantra "This too shall pass" and mine is "I will be the best person that I can be today." Both I think of as positive but with meaning. Some I've seen (to me) seem almost ridiculous and pointless, such as "Today I will be happy." OK that's great, but it's not something that you can work with if something negative happens. I've always thought that something like a mantra should at least be workable with all the time and shouldn't be something which is so dependent on external factors. I do always aim to be the best person who I can be on any given day. Sometimes I'm better than others, but it's always my best.
I do feel that at this point I should end with a quote or a mantra so I shall ;)
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